Becoming a mother has been one of the most transformative experiences of my life. While it has brought immense joy and fulfillment, it hasn’t always been easy. I don’t always navigate the challenges of motherhood with grace. There are moments when my self-doubt fades into the background, but more often than not, I hear my inner critic whispering:
“This isn’t working. I must be doing something wrong.”
“Maybe it’s time to try what so-and-so suggested, even though it doesn’t align with my values.”
Like many parents, I’ve experienced moments of uncertainty, especially when it comes to decisions about my child’s sleep. I may briefly try something new that’s been suggested by well-meaning friends or experts, but when it doesn’t feel right, I stop and remind myself to trust my own sense of what’s best for my family.
The White Coat Effect: When Professional Advice Creates Doubt
Dr. Deborah MacNamara refers to this as the “White Coat Effect” (L. Herbert & D. MacNamara, personal communication, February 26, 2025). It’s the idea that well-intentioned professional advice, while valuable, can sometimes undermine a parent’s confidence. Many of us have experienced this — the feeling that external advice overshadows our instincts and leaves us second-guessing ourselves.
Parenting is deeply personal. While advice can offer helpful perspectives, it’s essential that we learn to use it as a looking glass — a tool for reflection rather than a measure of success or failure. The journey of parenting isn’t about getting everything right. It’s about integrating our emotions, instincts, and logic to create a path that feels aligned with our family’s values.
If you’ve ever felt uncertain, know that you’re not alone. The process of rediscovering yourself while stepping into the role of a parent can be challenging, but it’s also deeply rewarding. I’m here to walk with you through this journey, supporting you as you embrace the parent you are becoming.
Tips for Rebuilding Your Parental Confidence
Reflect Before Reacting
When you receive advice, take a moment to pause. Reflect on whether the suggestion aligns with your values and the unique needs of your child.
Trust Your Inner Compass
You know your child better than anyone. While expert opinions and research are valuable, they should complement — not replace — your instincts.
Seek Support, Not Validation
Surround yourself with people who encourage and respect your parenting choices, creating a space where you feel safe to explore and grow.
Listen to Your Emotions
Your emotions are valid. They are an essential part of the parenting process and can guide you toward decisions that feel right for your family.
Use Advice as a Guide, Not a Rulebook
Advice from others can offer helpful perspectives, but it doesn’t have to dictate your choices. Let it inform your decisions without compromising your values.
Celebrate Small Wins
Recognize and celebrate the moments when you trust your instincts and make choices that feel right for your family. These wins build long-term confidence.
Why Choose Eckert Centre?
At Eckert Centre, we believe that parents are the experts on their own children. Our role is to empower you to reconnect with your instincts, build confidence, and navigate the parenting journey with clarity and compassion.
Expert Parenting Support
Our team of psychologists understands the challenges of balancing professional advice with personal intuition. We provide tailored support to help you strengthen your confidence in your parenting decisions.
Specialized Perinatal and Early Parenting Care
We offer specialized support for new and expecting parents navigating the emotional, mental, and practical challenges that come with parenthood.
Safe, Judgment-Free Space
Parenting doubt can be overwhelming. Whether you’re questioning your choices or seeking reassurance, we provide a space where you can explore your concerns without fear of judgment.
Flexible In-Person & Online Therapy Options
We offer secure online sessions across Alberta and in-person appointments in Calgary, Airdrie, and Cochrane, making it easier for parents to access the support they need.
Direct Billing to Insurance Providers
We simplify the process by offering direct billing to several insurance providers and providing same-day emailed receipts for hassle-free insurance submissions.
How We Can Help
Parent Coaching and Guidance
Personalized sessions that help you explore your parenting values, set boundaries, and build confidence in your unique approach.
Emotional and Mental Health Support for Parents
We address the emotional challenges that come with parenthood, including postpartum anxiety, overwhelm, and parental self-doubt.
Workshops and Resources
Ongoing workshops, blogs, and resources designed to empower parents with evidence-based information and practical tools.
You Don’t Have to Navigate Parenthood Alone
Parenting can be full of self-doubt, especially when external voices seem louder than your own instincts. But the truth is — you are capable, and your inner wisdom matters. At Eckert Centre, we are here to walk alongside you, helping you rediscover your confidence and guiding you toward a parenting style that feels authentic and aligned with your values.
Schedule a Consultation Today
Call us: 403-230-2959
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Caring for Families, One Step at a Time
At Eckert Centre, we are committed to sharing the Light of Hope and Courage with every family who walks through our doors. Let’s work together to nurture your confidence and guide your parenting journey with compassion and support.
